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March 22nd, 2013 by Marcia Davis

My Memoir Is Soon Available

Three years after I started my journey, my memoir, “Confessions of a Childfree Woman” is about to be available as an Ebook. It took me three long years but I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel in trying to get a book published.

This memoir shares how I made the difficult choice not to parent and how that choice affected the rest of my life. As a pioneer in the childfree movement I share the shocking betrayal I felt being interviewed on “60 Minutes” . (The results of that TV interview may shock you too.) I delve into the years I spent as a childfree woman  even sharing those times it may have made me sad. The time of menopause suggested another experience I never would have thought would affect me. Being a stepmother gave me insight into how difficult parenting truly is. Finally, I answer the burning question I’m repeatedly asked  of whether or not, as a 70 year old woman, I have any regrets.

Stay tuned. It’s about to be easy to get my memoir.I look forward to how it helps you.


December 15th, 2012 by Marcia Davis

Are Childlfree People Heartless?

Yesterday, there was a senseless killing of innocent children and adults at at Connecticut Elementary School. There are no words I can find on this keyboard to share my own horror. I am sad, bewildered and terribly upset. There are so many questions still unanswered. One by one, those questions will get answered and nothing will bring back those innocent lives.  I’m also annoyed.

Over and over I hear people being interviewed such as: media spokespeople, police and parents saying, “Anyone who is a parent knows the horror of this situation”. Why is it only parents who feel shock, dismay and bewilderment? Are those of us who chose to remain childfree heartless? Of course I know what that statement reflects . But, it also hurts those  who are discounted as feeling the pain of anyone looking at this tragedy. It’s bordering on the edge of saying only parents can feel the pain. We who have chosen to to raise children are also aunts, uncles, teachers, doctors, nurses, and compassionate people. It’s not just parents who are horrified.

It’s not intentional. I know that. I’m simply showing you the damage of pronatalistic statements.

April 9th, 2012 by Marcia Davis

The Childfree By Choice Still Need Support

Repeatedly, I’ve been told there’s no need for this blog or my memoir, “Confession of a Childless Woman”. People can now choose not to become parents. That’s correct. Yet, if that choice is openly shared, I’m told there’s still the negative stigma aimed at the childfree.

Recently, I posted on goodhousekeepingonyourmind and If you want to read rude comments of anger and annoyance, go there and look for the comments made towards “oldernonparent’. It still blows me away to see such hostility towards those who are open and honest about not choosing the life-long career of raising a child. And, I’m touched by those who still tell me to keep on… keeping on.

What do you think? Is the choice of not raising kids still seen as a negative, selfish decision? Are people openly admitting to this choice or are they still hiding this choice making family and friends think they are putting off kids or can’t have them?